THE RESILIENT HUB PODCAST · SEASON 11, EPISODE 11
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"Consent is not the absence of a no. It is the presence of a yes."
This episode is spoken directly to young people aged thirteen and over.
It covers what consent actually means — not the textbook version but the real, practical version that is useful in actual life. What a genuine yes looks like. What pressure sounds like. How consent applies online. What sextortion is and what to do if it happens. Why consent goes both ways. And what to do if something has already happened that didn't feel right.
It is honest, warm, and direct. It treats young people as the capable people they are. And it ends with a clear message for anyone who is carrying something difficult — it was not your fault, and you do not have to carry it alone.
For parents: this is a good episode to share with your teenager. Listen first so you know what is in it. Then share it — or use it as the starting point for your own conversation.
This episode is for young people aged 13 and over.
It contains discussion of consent, pressure, relationships, online image sharing, non-consensual intimate image sharing, and sextortion. It does not contain explicit sexual content but deals with serious topics in a direct and honest way.
If something in this episode brings something up for a young person — the resources below are there for them.
00:00 Age guidance and welcome
01:00 The opener
02:00 What consent actually is
05:00 What consent looks and sounds like in real life — including pressure
08:00 Online consent — including sextortion
12:00 Consent goes both ways
14:00 If something has already happened
15:00 The close
16:00 Outro
This section is written so it can be shared directly with a young person.
Pressure is never a good enough reason to do anything. If you feel pressured — that is the problem, not you.
Rape Crisis England and Wales and the End Violence Against Women Coalition both publish research showing that comprehensive, ongoing consent education significantly reduces rates of sexual harassment and assault among young people. This is protective for everyone — not just potential victims.
?? Rape Crisis England and Wales — Rape Crisis England & Wales
?? End Violence Against Women Coalition — Home | End Violence Against Women
Sextortion — the use of intimate images or the threat of sharing them to extort money or compliance — is a rapidly growing crime affecting young people in the UK and globally. The Internet Watch Foundation and CEOP both document significant increases in cases involving young people, including cases where the perpetrators are organised criminal networks operating internationally. Young people are targeted deliberately and systematically. Awareness is the most powerful protective factor.
?? _CEOP — _ceop.police.uk
?? Internet Watch Foundation — Eliminating Child Sexual Abuse Online | Internet Watch Foundation IWF
?? Revenge Porn Helpline — Revenge Porn Helpline - 0345 6000 459 | Revenge Porn Helpline | 0345 6000 459
Under the Online Safety Act 2023 and existing legislation in England and Wales, non-consensual sharing of intimate images is a criminal offence. Sharing an intimate image of someone without their consent — regardless of how it was obtained — is illegal. Where the person in the image is under eighteen, additional and more serious criminal offences apply.
?? Internet Watch Foundation — Eliminating Child Sexual Abuse Online | Internet Watch Foundation IWF
?? Childline — Childline | Free counselling service for kids and young people | 0800 1111
?? Revenge Porn Helpline — Revenge Porn Helpline - 0345 6000 459 | Revenge Porn Helpline | 0345 6000 459
Dr. Nina Burrowes' work on consent and trauma makes clear that going along with something because the pressure made saying no feel too hard is not consent — even if the word no was never said. Young people need to hear this explicitly, because the cultural narrative around pressure — that persistence is romantic, that wearing someone down is just how it works — is persistent and harmful.
?? Burrowes, N. — The Courage to Be Me
The UK Government's Relationships and Sex Education statutory guidance (2020) requires schools to teach consent as part of RSE. This episode is designed to complement and reinforce what young people are taught in school — and to say it in a way that feels more human and more useful than a classroom lesson alone can always achieve.
?? RSE Guidance — Relationships and sex education (RSE) and health education
Emma Sadleir and Rorke Wilson's book How Not to Mess Up Online covers sextortion, sexting, online safety, digital reputation, and the legal landscape around online harm in detail. Written for teenagers in accessible language. Recommended background reading for parents wanting to go deeper on the online safety content in this episode.
You do not have to navigate this alone.
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